Gay Marriage

Two women demonstrating for gay marriage rights in New York City. Photo credit: http://www.flickr.com/photos/joseanavas/ via Wikimedia Commons

The day I knew gay marriage was going to become the law of the land came several years ago as I stood in line at Walt Disney World. We were waiting to ride my favorite roller coaster, Space Mountain, and standing behind a lesbian couple. They clearly were enamored of one another. They held hands, chatted quietly, smiled brightly and generally acted like every other couple who genuinely like one another.

This was not an unusual site for me or my kids. We happen to live in one of the gay-friendliest towns in America. Our next door neighbors are two dads and their lovely twin daughters. So we’re used to seeing families of all shapes, sizes and sexes. But that’s not true for all families. Traveling is one of those things that can open dialogues about new things, from rickshaws to igloos to non-traditional families.

Of the most interest to me at Disney that day was the reaction of the others in line with us. Namely, there was no reaction. As I looked around at the other Disneyites, there were no disapproving stares. I didn’t see anyone giving the two women more than a passing glance. No whispered comments. Rather, they were all doing the same thing those two women were doing: focusing on their families.

That was the moment I knew that the idea of gay families had seeped into the fabric of America culture.

Supreme Court Ruling

So, when the U.S. Supreme Court ruled that same sex marriage is legal right and that a marriage certificate granted in one state must be honored by all others, my reaction was, “It’s about time.”

In his opinion, Justice Anthony M. Kennedy wrote: “No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than they once were.”

While this decision is being heralded as groundbreaking news—and it is—the reality is that the Supremes were merely formalizing the reality of the country, as measured by Disney, the Melting Pot of Middle Classdom.

On my most recent trip to Disney, I saw a family of two dads and their two cute toddlers. All four sported matching t-shirts. On the front, they said, “This is what a family looks like.” On the back: “So deal with it.”