A Hawaiian vacation is as American as The Brady Bunch and Scooby Doo. Heck, even the kids from Saved By the Bell made it to Hawaii. And, yet, I’ve never been. Which means my kids have never been either. Does that mean I’m a failure as a mom? Ha! Probably not, but I think this is one of those vacation spots that shouldn’t be overlooked, especially during Christmas or Spring Break travel seasons. Picking the best Hawaiian Island for your family vacation takes some investigation and planning. Here’s what I found.

Hawaiian beaches: sand and waves are calling! Photo: Allison Reed

Hawaiian beaches: sand and waves are calling! Photo: Allison Reed

Which Hawaiian Island is Right for You?

Time for some real talk. There’s been something gnawing at me on social media lately, and no, I’m not talking about politics.

According to your Facebook, Instagram, and Tweets, I must be the only person on earth who has not been to Hawaii. And quite possibly, I may be the only person who isn’t there right now. It seems like every day, someone new is saying Aloha and showing their feet in the sand.

How is this possible? I can’t be alone, right? Please tell me it’s not just me!

I have major FOMO going on right now- fear of missing out- which is surprising since Hawaii hasn’t been high on my travel list, mainly due to the time in the air it takes to get there. I’ll be honest: a seven-hour flight with kids just doesn’t sound appealing to me.


But then I see pictures like this, and I think, yeah, I could manage seven hours on a plane.

Okay, so maybe 7 hours on a plane isn't such a bad idea... Photo: Mindy Marzec, This Fairy Tale Life

Photo: Mindy Marzec, This Fairy Tale Life

I know I’m not the only one who hasn’t been, despite what my Facebook feed feels like. And with some of the best times for Hawaiian travel coming up during the Christmas holidays and Spring Break, I felt I should investigate the options. You know, FOR THE KIDS!

Since these are also some of the most popular times to visit, booking lodging really can’t wait. Especially when you add in the Moana factor. In a few weeks, this movie is going to be in theaters, and I predict a rush to book that first Hawaiian vacation for many families. Do not underestimate the power of a Disney movie, right, Norway?

That means if you, like me, are looking ahead to possible holiday travel, we need to bump this up to top priority on the To Do List. I’ll be looking at resort residence options for my crew.

But first: which is the best Hawaiian island for a first-time family?


Each Hawaiian island has a different vibe, tourist highlights, and stunning geography.

To give a few examples: Oahu is the most populous island and is home to North Shore and Diamond Head.

The Big Island of Hawaii offers active volcanoes Mauna Loa and Kīlauea.

Maui has fantastic beaches, with picture perfect sunsets.

And Kauai is breathtaking with excellent hiking trails.

Hiking Waimea Canyon in Kauai. Photo: Mindy Marzec, This Fairy Tale Life

Hiking Waimea Canyon in Kauai. Photo: Mindy Marzec, This Fairy Tale Life

In short: you have options. Lots of options!

I’m not sure there is a wrong choice, but you still have to narrow it down. Here are my top four choices.


To start, check out Oahu. If you are arriving by air, you are likely to fly into Honolulu Airport on Oahu as it’s often the least expensive option. And that’s one thing you will quickly learn: getting to Hawaii isn’t cheap! All major airlines fly into here from the mainland, and many international airlines are serviced here as well.

One draw of Oahu is the USS Arizona and Pearl Harbor. For my family, this would be a must see. Not only are we former military, but my grandfather joined the Navy soon after December 7, 1941.

The USS Arizona Memorial at Pearl Harbor. Photo: Mindy Marzec, My Fairy Tale Life

The USS Arizona Memorial at Pearl Harbor. Photo: Mindy Marzec, My Fairy Tale Life

Plus, I’ve always wanted to see the waves at the North Shore and mayyyybbe spot Steve McGarrett, aka Alex O’Loughlin, and the Hawaii 5-0 crew filming, preferably wearing their bathing suits.

Even if we don’t stay on this island, we will be sure to visit. Because: Steve. Mc. Garrett.


With 11 of the 13 climate zones located on one island, the Big Island is certainly unique! There’s so much to do and see here that you can find something to satisfy everyone.

This island boasts the largest mountain in the world Mauna Loa (by volume) and the tallest mountain in the world, Mauna Kea. Yes, it’s bigger than Everest when it is measured from its base on the sea floor to its peak.

Plus: active volcanoes. That’s not something you see every day! And truthfully, the draw of seeing lava flowing from active volcano sites appeals to my “look kids, learn something!” side.

I think I’d score some cool mom points with this outing. I can hear it now: “lava and real live volcanoes… Mom rocks!

Yes, kids, I do.


Maui has a bit of everything with touristy sights balanced with good beaches and hikes. It is usually recommended for a first trip- and it’s certainly less touristy than Honolulu over on Oahu.

During the Christmas to Spring Break season, you can see whales during migration season from the beaches. Now that would be cool for my Arizona kids to witness.

Some advice I’ve been given is to book activities ahead of time such as the Old Lahaina Luau, zip lining, snorkeling, and driving the Road to Hana.

And you can bet we won’t forget the shave ice!

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Mindy’s husband, Tim, shows off his shave ice and torments me so. Photo: Mindy Marzec, This Fairy Tale Life


Kauai is a favorite because it is the least touched island.

Friends report Kauai as having the most “Hawaiian feeling” of all the islands. It offers an authentic atmosphere with guava plantations, a lighthouse, and waterfalls to explore. The large waterfall scene in Jurassic Park (the original) was filmed on Kauai; you can visit the falls.

Since we are (still) living in that dinosaurs-are-coolest-things-ever phase, I know the family would geek a bit visiting here.

Hiking and seeing so much green (oh my word- so much green!) would be a top priority for us on Kauai.

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Kauai offers some pristine hiking with views that go on for days! Photo: Mindy Marzec, This Fairy Tale Life


Whichever island you choose, the right place to rest your head at night will set the tone for the trip. We’ve narrowed down our choice and are looking at booking in Maui for our first stay. A condo at a resort will likely meet the needs of everyone in my family.

We like to have some room for our big family to spread out with some comforts of home like a washer and dryer. And I love having a full fridge for all those Mommy-beverages I will consume while on vacation.

Frothy drinks with fresh pineapple and maybe an umbrella sound pretty Hawaiian to me!

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